The Rejection-Possibility Experiment

Fear of rejection. It used to hold me back a lot.

There were many times I didn’t go for what I wanted. Not because I couldn’t have had it, but because I was too terrified to hear a “no.”

Not anymore. And not for you either.

I’ve got a rejection-possibility experiment for you. It shifts rejection from something that feels heavy and contracting into something playful and expansive.

I promise, it works. It's tested and proven. So far, only by me, but if you feel like qualifying yourself as the next test subject, I’d love to be informed.

The beauty of this experiment is that it not only builds your resilience to rejection but also shows you what’s possible when rejection doesn’t scare you anymore.

Just imagine what you’d do if you didn’t fear rejection.

Imagine how many doors could open if you started to play this experiment today.

Artwork by Klara Sovryn

Here's how to play:

1. Pick your situation.

Find something you’d normally hold back on because of rejection fears. Like speaking your truth, approaching someone you admire (or like), or asking for financial compensation that matches your worth.

2. Enter play mode.

Shift yourself into a playful mode. KNOW—viscerally know—that you’ll be OK no matter what happens. You can handle whatever comes back. Stay light about the outcome. No emotional grasping for a specific result. You’re playing to see what happens, OK?

3. Observe what happens.

If you get rejected, congratulations! You’re building your rejection resilience.

If you don’t get rejected, congratulations! You’ve proven yourself that something you thought was out of reach was, in fact, possible.

4. Repeat, repeat, repeat.

The more you play, the less terrifying rejection feels. You'll dare more, regret less, and step up for what you truly want.

Everyone experiences rejection. Everyone. But for some, the fear is so paralysing that we don't speak or act our truth and miss out on the life we truly want (and can have).

Every time you experiment, you’re building resilience while opening doors to something greater for yourself.

So, go play and let me know how it goes. I want to hear about your experience.

Or if you’ve found another way to train yourself out of oversensitivity to rejection, I want to hear about that too.

Until soontime!

Klára

Thanks to

Kelly Flanagan

for our recent discussion.

When you said “Once we know we can handle that painful-in-the-core feeling, we don’t have to protect against it as much…” that’s when I realized I had this to tell.